Do you have a problem?
1.A matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome.
2.A thing difficult to achieve or accomplish.
Simply put, a problem exists in your life when there is a discrepancy between what you are doing and what you would like to be doing.
The obvious question is “Why? What’s stopping me from changing this behaviour?”
There are two basic answers to this:
1) It may happen that despite your best intentions to change things, you still can’t make any progress. You have hit a psychological barrier or block that prevents change. With the help of a psychologist you can get a deeper understanding of your feelings, thoughts and beliefs about the situation and in so doing overcome the barrier or block.
2) It might also happen that you feel vaguely dissatisfied with your life, but you can’t get a clear sense of what the problem is. In this case you might consult a psychologist to help define the problem.
If a person is grappling with a life, relationship, or work issue – or a specific mental concern – and if these feelings persist, and cause significant pain or sadness for longer than a few days, there would be reason to believe a problem exists.
Psychotherapy is most successful when the individual enters therapy willingly, and has a strong desire to change. If you don’t want to change, change will be slow in coming. Change means altering those aspects of your life that aren’t working for you any longer, or are contributing to your problems or ongoing issues.
It is also best to keep an open mind while in psychotherapy, and be willing to try out new things that ordinarily you may not do. Psychotherapy is often about challenging one’s existing set of beliefs, and often, one’s very self. It is most successful when a person is able and willing to try to do this in a safe and supportive environment.
Fortunately, once you have learned the basic strategy behind defining and solving your problems, you may not need professional help any more